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當一個自大的人跟你說對不起的時候

你要不要原諒他?

當然無所謂原不原諒

因為你早就忘記了

living in the moment.

有人曾經說自大狂妄的人其實是因為自卑

自卑的人有的矮化自己 有的被矮化

有的膨脹自己  因為只有這樣才不讓人家覺得他自卑

膨脹就是開始自大 不段的告訴自己 我最厲害 我最聰明

可是當全力受到挑戰的時候 

他先開始發飆 

然後告狀 告狀的方法 就是要別人不要看不起他 

可是人家真的是看不起他嗎????

 

這時候又說到了 the Four Agreements

1. Be impeccable with your word =>他沒辦法 因為他就是一直認為你看不起他  所以開口了 with pushing blood pressure high and high

2. Don’t Take Anything Personal => obviously he or she took something personally.  he or she thought that something happened that was becuse others did not give him or her respects.

3. Don’t Make Assumption => I don’t need to explain further.

4. Always do your best => well, we have to admit that he or she was trying to do his or her best.

 

這時候被指控的這個人呢????  Also the same agreements –

1. be impeccable wit h your word = 哈哈 打不還手罵不還口

2. Don’t Take Anything Personal => 對於別人的指控 只當瘋狗咬人

3. Don’t Make Assumption => 喔 不可以 assume he or she was a XX

4. Always do your best => yes, try to do your best not against the first 3 agreements. 

 

 

很可惜

看了一些工作上的東西 只有一句話 too bad (很可惜的浪費了一些時間) 哈哈有人以為工作上的東西很bad 不是啦 大笨蛋  (ㄟ 在說我自己嗎?)

 

總是令人覺得 唉……

 

有時候跟同是講到 ㄟ 我們這樣人家會不會認為我們很 小B啊

同事是很concerns about the comment, if any,  but I said" 管他的 小B就小B 對自己負責就好"

 

 

就只是試試看 

我想應該 new generation is same as old generation.  都愛 gossip.

 

得罪人????  ㄟ 這裡只是 outer spaceㄝ

想想這裡跟台北還有一定程度的相似  尤其是交通

 

Stop sign is for your reference only. California stop (rolling stop) 最常看到.  所以我現在都 只要在車少的時候, 卻又不幸有車子眼看就要比我晚到達stop sign, I then, slow down my speed in order let other car to reach the sign before I do.  妳這時候就會看到 對方就這樣連停都不停的過去了.  "謝天謝地 我比他晚到" 妳就要這樣想.  萬一妳碰到按照先後到達順序的車子開車的時候,　心理就忍不住要謝天謝地的想＂啊　我今天真幸福＂

 

When you are trying to backing up your car from a parking space, you have to be very careful for those cars with no brake  system because they can not stop or slow down.  Or, moreover, those women, sorry I have to admit that incurrs on women mostly, who backing up with the speed as "slow" as they are driving on a regular road. 

 

When you are trying to get out from a shopping plaza, especially Asian shopping plaza, you have to watch the traffic on main street BUT, you have also prayed for the car behind you  does not rush out to meet his or her mother. (他如果不是急得要回家見老媽幹痲一刻都等不急的要衝出去啊）

 

Wonerments on roads –

 

You can easily see or observe so many great drivers in the city.  This afternoon on my way home, I saw a car from my car mirror changed lanes from the most left side to most right lane, there were two lanes for turning left and two lane for going straight.  What a great driver! Couldn’t he or she make left turn then find a way to go back his or her route?  What on earth made him or her so rush to change lane in such way. ( 幹麻 就算油貴也沒有省成那樣嘛  說換車道就換 :S)  Normally, I would not see such wonderful scene.  I saw it because I heard someone pressed his or her horn hardly. 

 

More frequently, drivers switch to the highway entrance in very last moment.  New to the city?  I don’t think so.  

還有 那個 Baldwin 上 I-210 明明右轉 to 210 East, 就跟你說只能右轉 發現不對 就要直直走過硬跟人家直行的擠 210 to West.  

還有還有  就已經是一個車道了, 他可以開兩輛車 , 有沒有覺得跟台北很像????

 

 

 

Thoughts may be right at the moment but not definitely right at next minute. 

 

How gossip starts?  By mutual agreements of two or more persons, or, sometimes more frequently, by misunderstanding.   Do you want to punish someone?  Yeah, you gossip.  (Gossip just like a computer virus, intentionally or untentionally) But, who will be hurt?  You.  Want to revenge?  Revenge is a solution but never be a good one. 

 

don’t take anything personally, yes, then you will have immunity from hurt.  Don’t make assumption, yes, then you will not gossip and will not take things personally.  haha, still need to learn.

1st – Be Impeccable with Your Word

        Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

 

2nd – Don’t Take Anything Personally

         Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

 

3rd – Don’t Make Assumptions

        Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communciate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and dram.  With just one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

 

4th – Always do Your Best

        YOur best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as oppsoed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.