有人曾經說自大狂妄的人其實是因為自卑

自卑的人有的矮化自己 有的被矮化

有的膨脹自己  因為只有這樣才不讓人家覺得他自卑

膨脹就是開始自大 不段的告訴自己 我最厲害 我最聰明

可是當全力受到挑戰的時候 

他先開始發飆 

然後告狀 告狀的方法 就是要別人不要看不起他 

可是人家真的是看不起他嗎????

 

這時候又說到了 the Four Agreements

1. Be impeccable with your word =>他沒辦法 因為他就是一直認為你看不起他  所以開口了 with pushing blood pressure high and high

2. Don’t Take Anything Personal => obviously he or she took something personally.  he or she thought that something happened that was becuse others did not give him or her respects.

3. Don’t Make Assumption => I don’t need to explain further.

4. Always do your best => well, we have to admit that he or she was trying to do his or her best.

 

這時候被指控的這個人呢????  Also the same agreements –

1. be impeccable wit h your word = 哈哈 打不還手罵不還口

2. Don’t Take Anything Personal => 對於別人的指控 只當瘋狗咬人

3. Don’t Make Assumption => 喔 不可以 assume he or she was a XX

4. Always do your best => yes, try to do your best not against the first 3 agreements.